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Do you know how to put on makeup?

Of course, I am more of a tomboy who wears makeup. If that makes sense.

But that's so not true. They may still be the person they were, but of course their life has totally changed for their child. I am not saying it's a bad thing. It is part of life. But, as someone who doesn't have kids, and all their really good/close friends now have kids, there's not much to talk about or do. Obviously, they can't get out as much, and the biggest thing in their life is now their child(ren). I can't relate to that. I try to be empathetic, and I can to a point. But, when they're such a young age, that is their life. And I'd rather not be around them, because we don't connect. It's hard on both levels. I know after they're in school, it would be different, but that will be quite some time.

There is no right or wrong answer, it's just not something I'm interested in right now.

It is funny, because it is quite opposite. Almost all of my close friends now have kids, or are pregnant with their first kid. It's the same as before. Everything has changed (and of course should be). This is not to put down those women, it's to vent my frustration of the friends that I've had, that I won't get to spend time with for a while.

I totally get it too. And, I am the "aunt" for my girlfriends children too. I am happy to be there for them, but am sad at the same time. Things are on hold for a while, if not forever. That's what kinda sucks. I have amazing friends, who are amazing parents. I love their family, and they're great, but we just don't connect like we used to before the kids. It changes things. I am not against change, but I of course would rather it not change a relationship to good, to almost non-existent. I would never blame them, it is only natural. It's the fact that it's happened to almost all of my close friends, and I"m just sad. The people whom I've spent so much time with have their families, and I just can't relate like they can. It's a natural order of things, just didn't expect it from just about everyone all within a year or two. Bummer....

All of my friends have young kids, but I think guys are a little better about that because they're not worried about leaving the kids with the wife. There are a few that I've stood up a their wedding and I really never talk to them now because of kids, though.

So... Is it bad I at least once a week tuck the kids in and go out? Can people not have both?

Hell no! Not one bit! That's great if parents can do it, seriously! My friends, have not been able to do that. That's part of the problem. They either don't have anyone to watch the kids (most common), or they won't separate themselves to go out and have fun. I am not finding the middle with them. I think it's too selfish of me to say something. Most of them are new parents. I have no right in saying anything. But another issue is, they have nothing else to talk about. I REALLY am interested in what is going on with their kids, but with most of them, that is all they talk about. That is their life (true in a way). We don't have a common ground, because the only thing is their kid. It just doesn't work for me. I may be a selfish Bitch, but it seems to be all or nothing w/ my friends.

Jeez, I seem to be the old one with my friends. We're all 24-28, and I seem to be the only one now w/o kids. None of them have serious jobs, but neither do I. I make the same as most of them, but they have more of an expense (I'm with the in-laws so it evens out in that sense). I'm miserable, they're miserable, we're all miserable, and I have no one to hang out with.

Ok.....done pouting and venting. I realized that it was too much. Taking a deep breath now, and trying to live in the present moment.

I dont know, is it they cant leave the kids with the dads or they just can't let the dads have time out? I get time away and only once in a very great while do my husband and I go out together. I like going out with him but we don't have a lot of family lining up to babysit. But, I love that we can take turns going out. What would we talk about if we were always together?

Yeah, I don't reaLly talk about mine that much. I'm with my son all day he comes to work with me, I love my kids they are cute and cool but I like to have time that has nothing to do with them.

Not sure that would be a good solution, but I will keep it in mind.